What do you do when your fairytale ending is abruptly cut short and you are left to pick up the pieces alone? A happy couple, Royce Kirchner, and his wife, Kristy Kirchner, had been married for seven years and after three years of saving could finally afford to start IVF treatments to complete their family. Five days after their first IVF treatment, Mr. Kirchner was killed in a tragic car accident only two weeks after he canceled his insurance policy leaving his wife a widow.
Kristy found out that she was pregnant the night before his funeral. She announced her pregnancy while eulogizing Royce because she felt it was the last opportunity she would ever have to announce her pregnancy with her husband at her side. It's simultaneously the saddest and sweetest thing ever.
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I'm not sure how you would even begin to process those emotions when in the matter of a week you go from all encompassing hope and joy to complete devastation and then find out that you've gotten what the two of you have always wanted, a baby, only to realize that you are alone and the man you love is gone forever. This woman must be on an emotional roller coaster.
For the past year, Kristy has been documenting her journey to pregnancy on her Youtube channel ConceiveABaby. It was her diary. Like most writers, her "diary" is where she was not only documenting but also processing the ups and downs of the situation.
Since the death of her husband and subsequent pregnancy announcement, she has been documenting her grief and her journey through this miracle pregnancy that she is now experiencing. It's beautiful and sad and real.
You may ask yourself how and why does she continue to do it? As a writer, I can tell you, that for me, a big part of processing and moving through the highs and lows of life is documenting it. There are somethings that are near impossible for our minds to accept and documenting it is a way to get it out and let it marinate without the weight and pain of hardships consuming us. It's the way we make joy last and pain dissipate.
It's also a way to remember because when you are in the middle of the fog of a bug emotion, you don't remember the little things and especially with this being her pregnancy, she won't want to miss a moment, even if she can't fully live in them now.
At the end of it all, as devastating and tragic as it all may seem, Kristy will always have a piece of her beloved Royce with her for all of her life in their child together. While it is horrific that this child will never get to be held by her father who wanted her so much, isn't a beautiful thing to born of such love?
The video of her story will make you cry:
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