Have you heard of the 24-year-old piece of caca who lives in Harlem, New York named Jason Melo? He forced his 22-year-old girlfriend, the mother of his newborn, to walk the streets NAKED while he insulted her. Melo also videotaped the abuse so that he could further shame her by posting it on social media. It's hard to believe, but those are not the worst parts of this …
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Melo has been arrested and apologized since the incident happened on Sunday, but no one–and I mean no one–should accept this monster's apology because he still doesn't think it was his fault. WTF?!
So a little back story just to put everything in context: Melo claims that he made the mother of his child walk the streets naked in 30-degree weather because he caught her texting "seven other men."
Naturally, his reaction was to beat her in front of their newborn, make her strip and threaten to kill her if she didn't walk around the block with nothing on except a pair of boots. How nice of him to let her wear boots. Clearly, he has a heart of gold…NOT!
Then he posted the video online and guess what? Not everyone thinks it's an appropriate way to behave because not everyone is an INSANE abuser.
Before he went to jail, he went on Instagram to attempt to apologize for his behavior in a series of videos. He wants everyone to know that what he did was bad, but it could have been worse and he even says, "I came from a woman, I have a daughter, and I have two sisters. But look what you pushed me to do…" STOP EVERYTHING and focus on this part: "look what you pushed me to do."
Let's make something VERY clear: no one but the abuser is responsible for the abuse. No one makes an abuser abuse. Period. Punto. Y ya.
Mamás, this is a big deal! We need to raise children–female and male– to understand that abuse is NEVER excusable. How do we do this? By talking to our children about it and by modeling our behavior in such a manner.
Por ejemplo, let's say you hear about a man beating a woman and there are children around. You wanna know what you shouldn't do? You shouldn't say something along the lines of, "Well, why did he beat her?" Or "She must have done something to deserve it."
Less than a month ago I heard a relative say this in my home and I wasn't havin' it. I did not let the comment go because I will not be complicit in victim-blaming. I'm raising two daughters that need to know this abuse and victim-blaming is unacceptable and WRONG. All it does is take the responsibility off of the abuser and makes it seem like there is a reason for abusing someone. That is plain not true. We must make sure our kids know that too!
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