Pregnancy is magical, weird and stressful at times. Baby bumps also inspire people to say really stupid things without even knowing it. The most surprising part of it is that some of the ridiculous comments come from the people closest to you. If you care at all about having tact and not pissing off a pregnant woman, here are 10 things you should never say to someone who's expecting.
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Wow! Are you expecting twins?!
Are you trying to give me a complex about my belly size? Because you just did. Asking a pregnant woman if she's expecting twins translates to, "Wow! You're so big already." Unless the pregnant woman reveals she's having twins, please don't assume she is. Consider yourself lucky if she's also able to laugh it off and not give you a nasty stare.
Should you really be eating that?
The last time I checked, the doctor makes sure to provide a list of what to avoid while pregnant. If a pregnant woman wants to indulge or satisfy a craving, that's her prerogative. She has enough going on so your judgement isn't welcomed.
You're going to breastfeed, right?
This has such a judgemental tone to it! You aren't less of a mother because you decide not to breastfeed your baby. Some women love breastfeeding while others stop shortly after the baby is born. No matter what, it's a choice every mother has a right to so back off!
I know what you're having!
The last time I checked, there's a 50/50 chance for either gender. Not even Walter Mercado has a clue what a woman is carrying and he knows all about the stars. This comment is especially annoying if you're keeping the sex of the baby a surprise. Thanks for offering your guess though!
"You should have a gender reveal party!"
Yes, gender reveal parties are popular, but it's not for everyone. Having to worry about planning a party could add unneeded stress and anxiety. Unless the pregnant woman says she wants to host one, just leave it out as an idea.
"Are you going to waist train after?"
You're basically telling the pregnant woman, "Hey, your body is going to suck after pregnancy and you need to get your faja ready." This is the last thing that should be on a pregnant woman's mind. You may think the question is helpful, but it's really insulting. No gracias!
"You really aren't going to drink at all?"
When your wine loving friends ask this out loud you start to feel like the sober alien at happy hour or brunch. Yes, doctors say that a glass of wine here and there doesn't harm the baby, but if you rather skip drinking all together then that's your choice. You shouldn't feel judged for skipping the vino while pregnant!
"You're going to be that type of mom"
What does this even mean? While pregnant, you start to read up on organic products and parenting styles. It's natural to exam your way of life and be more aware of what you put into your body. If "that type of mom" means a prepared and aware mother then this takes the sting out of the person's delivery.
"Are you getting enough rest?"
A mom to be is tired most of the time! Even if she sleeps enough hours during the night, sleepiness will stick kick in during different times of the day. Don't make comments on how tired a pregnant woman looks. Of course she's tired. There's a baby growing inside of her!
"Can I touch your belly?"
Did this turn into a petting zoo all of a sudden? The worst is when family members will want to kiss and rub your belly. You aren't kissing the baby. You're kissing my belly and sort of violating my personal space. Awkward. Please stop.
