If there is one thing you never say to a woman, is to congratulate her on her pregnancy without knowing for sure. It's an unspoken female rule and when someone violates it, it's not a pretty picture. Case in point? A woman who asked Dear Abby for advice because she says people are always assuming she is pregnant and she wants it to stop.
Instead of Abby taking this woman's feelings into consideration when responding, she does the unthinkable. You won't believe what she advises this woman to do…
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The Chicago Sun Times shared the question the woman sent in to the advice column which read:
Dear Abby: I'm a single, successful professional woman who carries her weight in one place–my belly. Despite many diets and exercise programs, I am unable to lose my belly. Because of this, I'm often mistaken for being pregnant. Strangers in shopping malls, at professional seminars and in hotels while traveling will ask me when I am due. My usual response is, "I'm not pregnant. I'm just chubby and need to hit the gym." (The other evening, though, I responded, "Not soon enough!") The last straw was at a recent book signing where the author wrote, "Enjoy your growing life." Any thoughts? — NOT A BABY BUMP IN MILWAUKEE
You would think Abby would use her female instinct to be sensitive with her response, but nope instead she gave her a reply that made me cringe. Here is what the famed columnist said:
DEAR NOT A BABY BUMP: I do have a few. Have you considered wearing a foundation garment? If you already wear one, then I have more suggestions. First, discuss this with your doctor, a nutritionist and a personal trainer. And if they can't help you, talk to a board-certified plastic surgeon about liposuction.
Really, Dear Abby? I was expecting something along the lines of USEFUL advice this woman can use when people ask her that dreaded question. Instead of insensitively telling her that she should just give up and get liposuction, she needs to consider the alternatives. If she isn't taking care of her diet then liposuction can only get the job done so much. A dietary problem would make for a pointless surgery if she gains the weight back, since it could look worse the second time around. Watching what she eats with the guidance of a doctor is a healthier alternative than risking getting plastic surgery. By suggesting she get liposuction, is the definition of bad and lazy advice.
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