As soon as I heard Jenni Rivera had died in a tragic plane accident, I wondered how her eldest daughter Chiquis must be feeling. You see, for weeks prior to Jenni's death, the mother and daughter–who were usually inseparable–had been in a bitter battle regarding Jenni's ex-husband Major League Baseball player Esteban Loaiza. There had been a lot of media speculation as to whether Jenni had filed for divorce from Loaiza in October because her daughter Chiquis had an affair with him. Although Jenni never confirmed that and Chiquis adamantly denied it, the mom and daughter had fought it out in Twitter for everyone to see.
In fact, it was Chiquis herself who begged her mom via social media to give her the respect she deserved and to talk to her about the rumors claiming that it had been a month since the last time they had spoken, according to one of her tweets at the beginning of November.
Although it's not known if they had made up prior to Jenni's unexpected death, I hope they did for Chiquis' sake. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to cope with such a tragedy knowing that there were unresolved issues like those between Chiquis and her mom.
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Every time I get into a fight with my husband, one of my siblings, my mother or anyone else in my family, I always remember my dad telling me that none of it is worth it because one day we're here and the next we're not. Once a person is gone–especially when it's completely sudden, like in Jenni's case–there's not turning back time. If you didn't say you're sorry or tried solving the problems you were having, when the person passes away, it's simply too late.
I'm sure coping with unresolved issues after someone you love dies is not easy, but maybe one way is by writing a letter where you don't hold anything back and then reading it out loud at your loved one's grave site. Another option is to start a grief journal where you can jot down all your emotions regarding the unresolved issues. Finally, it's always helpful to seek professional help from either a psychologist or a spiritual counselor so you can learn to get over the burden caused by not fixing things with your loved one before they died.
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