Rainbow babies are little ones who come to a family as a beacon of hope after experiencing the loss of a previous baby via miscarriage, stillbirth, or due to natural causes. The wounds left by the death of a baby that was so highly anticipated and desired are extremely painful and devastating. The loss can leave the baby’s parents feeling lost and questioning the meaning of life. But with the passing of time comes acceptance, and when a rainbow baby arrives it does not replace the loss, but it does help recover a sense of hope. The term “rainbow baby” might be relatively new historically, but rainbow babies have existed since the birthing of babies. Some call them miracle babies.
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One thing to remember is that although a rainbow baby is a source of joy, it can also bring up some scary emotions and the fear of another loss. A mom-to-be may feel fearful during the new pregnancy because of what she's already been through. If that’s the case, it’s important to seek professional help. There is no shame in needing support. So if you are going through a situation like this or know someone who could use this information, we invite you to continue reading and share with others.
What is a rainbow baby?
A rainbow baby refers to a baby who is born after parents have experienced a pregnancy loss or the death of a baby at birth or after birth due to natural causes. All babies are beautiful, but rainbow baby’s arrival brings happiness after a tremendous loss. A rainbow baby is like the beautiful apparition that shines in the sky after a storm.
A rainbow baby arrives after a devastating emotional storm.
A rainbow baby comes after the darkness of mourning. Of course, it does not and cannot replace the baby that was lost. But it does renew hope and is a blessed addition to the family despite what has happened.
Rainbow children cannot erase grief or the child that came before.
The grieving process takes time and can hit you in waves. Parents who have lost a baby need the space and time to heal. Having another child cannot heal the pain of loss and each baby must be respected as an individual and appreciated for the unique essence he or she brings.
Rainbow children should absolutely have their own name.
In addition to the fact that rainbow babies must be respected in their individuality, it is important that they do not have the same name as the baby who died. Rainbow babies need to be recognized as unique beings without having the pressure of continuing a story that was never theirs in the first place.
Many say that rainbow babies are sensitive and empathetic children.
Of course, not all rainbow babies are the same, but according to anecdotal evidence, they do seem to share certain traits. For example, as they grow older, they are seen to have a great ability to understand the emotions of others. Therefore, they can be careful and protective of other’s feelings. Makes sense since they are born into a complex emotional situation.
They are described as babies who develop emotional strength.
Many moms who have gone through the experience of having a rainbow baby share that as their child grows and understands the world around him, he shows self-confidence and strength to face the different challenges that arise in the development stages. He does not give up and perseveres with confidence—so much so that he may end up being a great example and emotional teacher to his own parents.
Rainbow babies can create deep connections.
Due to their ability to empathize with others, they have a special charisma that helps them create bonds and unbreakable ties with the people they love. Rainbow babies also have the ability to neutralize negative environments with their presence alone. Their communication skills go far beyond words as they can create this special connection with just a look.
Rainbow babies develop a great creative capacity.
Due to their high sensitivity, their creative ability can lead them to excel in many skills. Their zest for life and curious nature leads to an interest in learning and exploring the world. Because of this, they seek out new experiences and can get bored when not presented with new experiences and stimuli.
